Monday, October 02, 2006

Ode to KayTar

Inspired by a couple posts, I decided to talk about all the wonderfulness that is KayTar. I spend so much time writing about the negative, because outside of the blog realm, I don't discuss it; that in the blog realm, I spend little time praising all of the positive that I have been given in my little KayTar.

KayTar is a sweetheart. She is such a little lovebug. She may not care for strangers, but she totally makes up for it with the love she pours out into our little family. Her brother is her best friend, and he loves her just as much. We've never had problems with sibling rivalry between the two of them. In some ways, she is the easiest child. She rarely fusses when we are at home, and if she does, it is only to let us know that she is tired or that she needs some alone time in her crib. At night, we put her in her crib and she goes to sleep. She doesn't night wake, she sleeps in until 9:30 (glorious 9:30!), and she is in no rush to get moving in the mornings. I have been able to enjoy her babyhood so much, I feel like I was given a double portion of sweet baby-goodness. Her brother was ready to be grown up from the time he left the womb. He was three weeks old and standing on my lap. He passed his milestones early; there was scarcely a babyhood to be found. Every new thing KayTar does, we savor because we know it was hard won. We have time to enjoy each new thing she learns because they aren't so piled up on top of one another that it becomes one large lump of accomplishments. This morning she signed "More food." when she wanted her breakfast and we didn't ask or prompt her...she just told her daddy she was ready to eat. It was like a miracle. We took so many things for granted with BubTar, but KayTar has taught us how special each individual accomplishment can be. Nothing comes easy to her, and we are challenged daily to help her become the very best version of herself. We are becoming the best parents we can be because of her. We had almost a full year and a half before she started exploring the house, we would put her in the living room to play and she never wandered off or got into anything she wasn't supposed to. She plays on her own so well and has never needed anyone to entertain her. She is not clingy and she does not whine. She does not have tantrums, and we never have to discipline her. One of friends said it this was, "She is easy in every way she can control; the ways she is difficult she has no control over." and it is so true. In every way that she can help, she is the most wonderful kiddo on the planet. She is both my easiest and my most challenging child. I can't merge the two and say it balances, because it doesn't work that way. But I can say I wouldn't trade our KayTar for anything, and that what we are going through right now is a small price to pay to have someone so wonderful in our lives.


Anonymous said...

You forgot to say gorgeous! You seem to be in what my family calls a "great big I love my kid mood." It is so wonderful to read such a loving post about your little girl. I know I speak for all of us who are readers of your blog when I say that I am enjoying getting to know KayTar and your entire family. Give her an extra squeeze from me today, that picture you posted just calls out for lots and lots of hugs!

Anonymous said...

What a beautiful tribute to your darling girl!

Beck said...

What a beautiful, beautiful little girl. Look at those eyes! I'm honoured that something I wrote helped inspire you!