tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post6275779614675256694..comments2023-09-04T11:20:08.804-05:00Comments on Life with the 'Tars: GoKylahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03311014761113076785noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-49092796934793535892007-01-17T00:38:00.000-06:002007-01-17T00:38:00.000-06:00Well, I have no experience here, but I would think...Well, I have no experience here, but I would think that from KayTar's perspective, the best thing for her to see is that you have no shame or embarassment -- only total confidence that people will be nice and kind. Kids pick up on parental confidence so much. <br /><br />And as far as other people are concerned, my answer is the same. Your confidence is the thing that will make them feel OK to make eye contact and smile.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584642250579986707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-84572009434059057362007-01-16T18:06:00.000-06:002007-01-16T18:06:00.000-06:00If someone asks you "What's the matter with her?" ...If someone asks you "What's the matter with her?" I think my gut response would be to look somewhat horrified and say "What do you mean?" <br /><br />Embarrass the crap out of them for being so insensitive and stupid.<br /><br />Because she's lovely. Just lovely. And obviously making great strides!ewe are herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339650361453626546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-16096877257327304372007-01-15T22:34:00.000-06:002007-01-15T22:34:00.000-06:00She's gorgeous as always :)
This will sound silly...She's gorgeous as always :)<br /><br />This will sound silly - but G doesn't have anything visibly "wrong" with her, but she talks "funny" and behaves v. immaturely for her age (it doesn't help that she is the size of a 5 year old having only just turned 4). I've never had anyone ask me about her, but I sometimes wonder if it would be easier if people did ask questions (get rid of the elephant in the room and all that...)Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17574688179517054558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-74918681947750838942007-01-15T15:41:00.000-06:002007-01-15T15:41:00.000-06:00Way to go, Kaytar!
I'm no authority or anything, ...Way to go, Kaytar!<br /><br />I'm no authority or anything, but I kind of like Jen's response. Or I might say something along the lines of "We're really proud of her. She's doing great, don't you think?", and ignore the negative responses. People like that don't deserve acknowledgment.Run ANChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06088821030860597465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-42530181855977578152007-01-15T14:59:00.000-06:002007-01-15T14:59:00.000-06:00Great photos!
Frankly, even the polite questions ...Great photos!<br /><br />Frankly, even the polite questions bug me. I hate having to address what makes my kid "special" even if there is a natural curiousity to others. But that is my thin skin talking!<br /><br />I wonder how I would feel in your position, where the walker is a very physically obvious thing versus my child's difference being one of behavior. Would I feel relief that a walker wouldn't be blamed on the parents? I don't know.<br /><br />But with KayTar's personality and smile, I can't imagine anyone being rude. What a cutie!Kariannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12508403905884601778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-67660600827280360402007-01-15T13:14:00.000-06:002007-01-15T13:14:00.000-06:00I have a little girl who was born with a club foot...I have a little girl who was born with a club foot that had to be casted, braced, shoed and still turns in quite a bit. She'll probably never be a ballerina, but she's going to do whatever else her little heart desires. When she first wore the cast, she was 3 weeks old and I was so frightened to let anyone hold her in case they realized she had on a cast--that was silly. I only had one or two comments about the casts ("Oh, did she fall off the bed?" "Yeah," I wanted to respond, "my three week old is amazing...she's turning flips and somersaults right off the bed!?!") But the shoes...oh, how the shoes-with-the-bright-red-metallic-bar just begged for others to comment. Mostly I heard comments about how everyone knows someone who had to wear them. Or "Oh, how sad. She has to wear those shoes." I usually just snapped back "It's not sad. World hunger is sad. Child abuse is sad. This is temperary and fixable." Definitely not my finest hour. The questions I never minded were the ones that people asked with compassion. "Why does she have to wear those?" "How long will she wear them?" Those types of questions. The sweetest moment was when we took M to meet some friends for dinner who had an inquisitive 3 year old. The mother did the right thing by telling her about M's shoes. When the 3 year old saw them, she said, "Mommy! Them's better than you said! They're shiny! I NEED SOME JUST LIKE THEM!" That's in M's scrapbook. I never, ever want to forget that sweet encounter. <br /><br />Good luck with the walkering. Kay-Tar is beautiful. <br /><br />Natalie<br />Macon, GAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-46533824361436336902007-01-15T11:53:00.000-06:002007-01-15T11:53:00.000-06:00Go, Kay Tar!!
I don't know if there is any right ...Go, Kay Tar!!<br /><br />I don't know if there is any right or wrong response. My suggestion is that you keep saying what you have been saying to us: "We are so proud of her!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-88481996566949038012007-01-15T11:41:00.000-06:002007-01-15T11:41:00.000-06:00Kyla,
Check KayTar out, swigging while walkering....Kyla,<br /><br />Check KayTar out, swigging while walkering. Good for her! And good for you, too, for getting her out there, despite whatever reservations you might feel.<br /><br />I'd planned on posting tonight on a similar issue (of how people notice and react to difference), but from the perspective of a parent with a little kid who inevitably notices and is starting to enquire about these differences. I'd love to hear what you have to say, once it's written...I want to know if you think my planned response is the correct one.<br /><br />Going over to check out Christy's post.NotSoSagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782162947524115936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-80589660123748480192007-01-15T07:38:00.000-06:002007-01-15T07:38:00.000-06:00I don't know what the right response is - she's su...I don't know what the right response is - she's such a darling, bright-eyed little girl that I have trouble even imagining anyone looking at her with less than kindness. I guess the right answer for people who ask questions is whatever you feel comfortable giving, at this point, and whatever Kaytar feels comfortable with later on.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-65365240060372511732007-01-15T01:19:00.000-06:002007-01-15T01:19:00.000-06:00Congratulations to KayTar on her new mobility!
In...Congratulations to KayTar on her new mobility!<br /><br />In response to your question:<br /><br />I remember that when I was young (I didn't walk independently until after age 2.5, and used both leg braces and walking casts until age 7), my mother would respond to an overly-curious stranger by saying the words "Why do you ask?" while flashing her huge smile.<br /><br />It got the point across, and I don't remember a single person ever responding to the question....they usually just looked flustered and walked away. <br /><br />In any case, I can't imagine anyone ever being rude to KayTar---she's too adorable! <br /><br />Blessings---<br /><br />Jen.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com