tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post1617176123287276484..comments2023-09-04T11:20:08.804-05:00Comments on Life with the 'Tars: Hairism: The Unspoken PrejudiceKylahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03311014761113076785noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-26233690611037437122006-12-09T20:14:00.000-06:002006-12-09T20:14:00.000-06:00I'm new too! I have been reading your blog for a w...I'm new too! I have been reading your blog for a while now but I don't think I have posted yet. Don't worry about your handsome, charming, witty, ACTIVE little BOY! He is trying very hard and doing way better than either of my boys at four would have coped with such an academic program. My ten year old still can't sit still, and my six year old still thinks that the way you greet your friends is to put them in a head-lock....<br /><br />From what you write about him, your little lad is right on track or way past his age level, and he's just acting with the emotional maturity of a four year old. He sounds lovely.Vickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13586437968219484958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-6386301199497243652006-12-09T00:42:00.000-06:002006-12-09T00:42:00.000-06:00Oh my. That is funny!
I agree that "he is just 4."...Oh my. That is funny!<br />I agree that "he is just 4." And what that means is that little things (like superhero things) are extremely important. And emotions run high. And self-control lacks for all kids at this age. Combine all those things, and you have a jumping.<br />I also agree w/ Christina's post. That was an interesting perspective, and how I tend to look at things... that they learn so much through play and that play should be emphasized over structure. I am not saying his school has too much structure (since I don't really know), just that I think the "free play" stuff is pretty important.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584642250579986707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-44282234805386457242006-12-08T10:02:00.000-06:002006-12-08T10:02:00.000-06:00Okay, BubTar sounds a lot, A LOT, like Bryce at th...Okay, BubTar sounds a lot, A LOT, like Bryce at that age. "My brain made me do it." !!! Bryce said the same thing when he was 4. He didn't have problems specifically jumping other kids at that age, but I truly believe it's because by the time he was 4, we had found a school that challenged him and structured his day appropriately. BubTar sounds extremely bright, and I know I'm going against the grain by saying this, but I suspect maybe what he needs is *more* challenge, not less. Oh, and he probably did need a nap - that was definitely an issue for us at that age (Bryce is 5 now, but it sometimes STILL is an issue).Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02667140531327670081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-39070045168826448262006-12-07T22:15:00.000-06:002006-12-07T22:15:00.000-06:00I'm new, but-
yeah, I agree w/ Christina. And yes,...I'm new, but-<br />yeah, I agree w/ Christina. And yes, you don't know me from Adam, but it seems really too strict. The important thing is that he is being set up to succeed, to build his self confidence. This doesn't sound like this school is a good fit for him, and not that's okay. Not every school is going work for every child. But if it keeps going like this, it may be that he starts dreading going to a place where everyone is always disappointed in him. And it's something that could follow him throughout his school days. He sounds like a great kid, I'd definitely check into some other programs.<br />And BTW- so glad you got some answers for Kaytar- she's a doll!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-65023634929946973592006-12-07T20:38:00.000-06:002006-12-07T20:38:00.000-06:00Hey, Kyla, I'm just catching up a little here. Poo...Hey, Kyla, I'm just catching up a little here. Poor BubTar! Poor you! It's hard to be four, I think. It turns out that it's the same as 3 (which is kind of the same as 2) only everybody thinks you should act like you're 6. I'm with not-so-sage, thinking his teacher could be more supportive. <br /><br />I'm glad you're getting some clarity about KayTar. Her signing is incredible.<br /><br />xo CatherineAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-10929240845641931162006-12-07T14:44:00.000-06:002006-12-07T14:44:00.000-06:00What a funny little guy (and a funny post!)What a funny little guy (and a funny post!)Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17574688179517054558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-52557919612393113112006-12-07T14:02:00.000-06:002006-12-07T14:02:00.000-06:00*lol* Yes, he says "I didn't do it on purfuss!" *l...*lol* Yes, he says "I didn't do it on purfuss!" *lol* <br />Lately, his excuse is "My brain just MADE me do it." <br /><br />We do limit what he watches, only preschool shows + the occassional Spongebob episode.Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03311014761113076785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-52874590475464037692006-12-07T13:36:00.000-06:002006-12-07T13:36:00.000-06:00As the mom of a 4 year old boy also...all I can sa...As the mom of a 4 year old boy also...all I can say is...I can relate. With us, as soon as he does something wrong, the first words out of his mouth are 'i did it by mistake'. We are trying very hard to make him understand the difference between doing something intentionally and doing something by mistake. We are getting no where.<br /><br />Also, someone mentioned the violence issue. My kids watch Disney and Noggin, occasionally PBS. I have never seen anything violent on there, yet my three boys are very physical and rough with each other. I truly think boys just learn this stuff through osmosis or something. <br /><br />Good luck Kyla!JSmith5780https://www.blogger.com/profile/16954759123115546248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-1233192298698353562006-12-07T12:41:00.000-06:002006-12-07T12:41:00.000-06:00Hi Kyla,
I came to your blog from some of the med...Hi Kyla, <br />I came to your blog from some of the medical blogs (I am a pediatric RN) and I enjoy it very much- it's nice to have a parent's perspective on how they feel when they are facing unknown diagnoses. <br /><br />As someone with a strong previous background in early childhood eduation- I just have to say that I wonder that maybe BubTar has way too many expectations on him for a 4 year old. I dont know what exact sort of school environment he's in- but developmentally at 4 he should really just be playing. No academics, no strict (and confusing!) "green card, yellow card, orange card," discipline system, etc. He should be in a preschool program- which is called PRE- school for a reason. I think on your previous post you were saying he had trouble sitting still in "chapel time" and "center time" and "learning time" What a schedule for a 4 year old! That is an incredible amount of sitting still. It should be play, eat, story, play at his age...<br />Just a thought. He sounds bright, social, totally on track developmentally- for a 4 year old- but it seems they are expecting him to act as a 6 year old at school. <br />And that whole lying thing that you wrote about a little while ago... it really bothered me that the teacher wouldn't believe him! Kids should generally be trusted and believed unless there is some great reason to think otherwise.<br />He sounds like a great kid- I just hope this school doesn't wear his spirit down. He has the rest of his life to sit still and be good- maybe there is a preschool near you that focuses more on laid back fun and lets him get some of his normal 4 year old energy out?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-4395238897592749602006-12-07T12:10:00.000-06:002006-12-07T12:10:00.000-06:00Yesterday he had to nap. On school days where he i...Yesterday he had to nap. On school days where he is well-behaved he gets to watch PBS in our big bed while enjoying a snack. On days he is in trouble, he has to nap. Then, he was grounded from the computer, because he LOVES the computer. And today, he was not allowed to have spiky hair for school. *lol* <br /><br />Hopefully today will be a better day. If the hair makes the man, then maybe he will pretend to be Clark Kent and act like a well-behaved nerd. :)Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03311014761113076785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-54125115330979911832006-12-07T11:37:00.000-06:002006-12-07T11:37:00.000-06:00You're funny, Kyla! It's so hard to know with litt...You're funny, Kyla! It's so hard to know with little boys what's normal and what's not, isn't it? I don't have any really great advice - maybe think about where he might be getting some violent messages from and try and limit those. Also, maybe some strict consequences for unacceptable behaviour - loss of tv time or whatever he really values.... little boys! Sheesh!Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-61917034782909135272006-12-07T11:33:00.000-06:002006-12-07T11:33:00.000-06:00BubTar sounds like he's a warm, smart, wonderful k...BubTar sounds like he's a warm, smart, wonderful kid who felt hurt when another kid (without the right props, no less) threatened to steal his hero persona. I seem to remember many a schoolyard argument over who was going to "be" Princess Leah or Rainbow Brite. <br /><br />I think it's terrible that you would feel blamed, rather than supported, by the teacher. One of the things that I realise as my daughter gets older is how many people have a hand in raising her. If BubTar is acting out, why wouldn't she try to engage you in a conversation about how to resolve things rather than just reporting on the events?<br /><br />I wish you the best of luck, and wish that I had better advice to give, even if it was just an admission that "4 year-olds will be 4 year-olds".NotSoSagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782162947524115936noreply@blogger.com