tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post1340799749216078196..comments2023-09-04T11:20:08.804-05:00Comments on Life with the 'Tars: RaindropsKylahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03311014761113076785noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-9507501603166591672008-04-11T10:19:00.000-05:002008-04-11T10:19:00.000-05:00Maybe KayTar is identifying the sensory part of cr...Maybe KayTar is identifying the sensory part of crying before the emotional part? Her answer is totally logical.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-37294035530042773542008-04-09T19:07:00.000-05:002008-04-09T19:07:00.000-05:00What a beautiful, melancholy post, Kyla. The writi...What a beautiful, melancholy post, Kyla. The writing is so haunting. <BR/><BR/>I like what Bea says about the mirror. Miss M and her dad practice emotions in front of the mirror--they always have. That's what it means to be an actor/director's kid, I guess.Madhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13416585771017767796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-40779297322927127762008-04-09T18:52:00.000-05:002008-04-09T18:52:00.000-05:00This is sheer poetry, my dear Kyla. It brought te...This is sheer poetry, my dear Kyla. It brought tears to my eyes and I still say thank you. I know those questions all too well but could not have asked them so eloquently.Ben and Benniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12165216797183902071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-12888930393352967872008-04-09T08:51:00.000-05:002008-04-09T08:51:00.000-05:00That was beautifully written. And your little gir...That was beautifully written. And your little girl is so amazing. She's so bright.<BR/><BR/>There was something else that came to mind, too, when I read about the disconnect she has between identifying her own emotions, and recognizing emotions in others. Have you heard of some (moderately recent) studies that link such tendencies in autism-spectrum individuals to lower levels of oxytocin? <BR/><BR/>I saw some references to this a couple of years ago, and it looks really fascinating. Here's a link to a <A HREF="http://web.mit.edu/autism/oxytocin%20social%20cognition.pdf" REL="nofollow">pdf</A> of a 2006 paper looking at effects of administering oxytocin on the identification of emotional speech.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-67845101651414307922008-04-08T22:17:00.000-05:002008-04-08T22:17:00.000-05:00what a beautiful post, kyla.what a beautiful post, kyla.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05602868040771218507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-61656374459766406872008-04-08T22:14:00.000-05:002008-04-08T22:14:00.000-05:00darling. she has the seed, cause she has you, and ...darling. she has the seed, cause she has you, and Josh. She is just not putting words to it maybe, for whatever reason she has.<BR/><BR/>ach. I'm not trying to give you solution words. Just I get it words.<BR/><BR/>farck. fumble fumble.crazymummahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04663148723513574331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-65471748614017318112008-04-08T21:24:00.000-05:002008-04-08T21:24:00.000-05:00I hope so Kyla, and I think so too.I hope so Kyla, and I think so too.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-35773249716664058772008-04-08T16:47:00.000-05:002008-04-08T16:47:00.000-05:00What a beautiful, poignant post, Kyla.I believe in...What a beautiful, poignant post, Kyla.<BR/><BR/>I believe in my heart that she'll get there.Run ANChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06088821030860597465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-63056872113452929372008-04-08T10:20:00.000-05:002008-04-08T10:20:00.000-05:00I see what you mean, and I know it's not the same,...I see what you mean, and I know it's not the same, but if only you could see Persistence daily and how many empathic failures she has. Not the same kind or way, per se. But at 3, empathy isn't developed, and if K has a block, it's just a higher wall. It sounds like there is hope that she can scale it.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-309422473063709872008-04-08T08:36:00.000-05:002008-04-08T08:36:00.000-05:00i hope that the seed is able to take root, but lik...i hope that the seed is able to take root, but like the others have said, as she is, she is already blooming.Bonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14403701620708365171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-79873523199484346292008-04-08T07:16:00.000-05:002008-04-08T07:16:00.000-05:00i loved how this was written, kyla, loved it. and...i loved how this was written, kyla, loved it. <BR/><BR/>and the tears? she knows, in her heart, what they mean. the key is finding out how to communicate it.<BR/><BR/>xoxoxoChristinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662448292809451387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-67467994470355456302008-04-07T21:15:00.000-05:002008-04-07T21:15:00.000-05:00I agree with what one of your readers said--emotio...I agree with what one of your readers said--emotions are so very complex. She may not be able to externalize emotions well, but it seems she understands her own, at least--and this is so important.Aliki2006https://www.blogger.com/profile/15763865834765963343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-7070562905053774422008-04-07T19:49:00.000-05:002008-04-07T19:49:00.000-05:00She's so complex. It makes me wonder if she sees ...She's so complex. <BR/><BR/>It makes me wonder if she sees and feels things we can't. If it isn't so much that she is missing peices of life as it is that she is just seeing things in ways we can't imagine.Jenny, the Bloggesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13718481135182612620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-3590262183362689182008-04-07T18:06:00.000-05:002008-04-07T18:06:00.000-05:00That is fascinating. I hope she grows that, becaus...That is fascinating. I hope she grows that, because she is amazing in so many ways, it would be nice for her to feel that connection sometime when she gets there, too.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-89416993161773300312008-04-07T17:34:00.000-05:002008-04-07T17:34:00.000-05:00Nothing to say that hasn't already been said here....Nothing to say that hasn't already been said here. <BR/><BR/>Hugs to you and yours. Kaytar is such a gem.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11530892587771136443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-85114201830591074892008-04-07T16:04:00.000-05:002008-04-07T16:04:00.000-05:00Hugs to both of you.Since she can recongize in her...Hugs to both of you.<BR/>Since she can recongize in herself hopefully as she matures she will be able to recognize it in others.<BR/><BR/>I know emotions are something pre-school hits hard. Grandson is three and there is a chart in the room that the teacher uses with different emotions on it.mommamiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12776580811028926584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-43623281384990321212008-04-07T14:50:00.000-05:002008-04-07T14:50:00.000-05:00Yeah, that is a symptom- we work with C on it. Dif...Yeah, that is a symptom- we work with C on it. Different faces and have him imitate (which he loves). They also work on it at DD preschool. I think most spectrum kids can be taught the "big" emotions, it's reading people's subtle cues that confuse them. The seeds are there, I promise. You'll just have to, um, put a lot more effort into that particular plant:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-83744618597607651152008-04-07T14:40:00.000-05:002008-04-07T14:40:00.000-05:00Only been reading a short time but it does seem li...Only been reading a short time but it does seem like she has that seed. Maybe it's just her soil that needs tending...with time(?) I hope for you.Woman in a Windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14747858840088922077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-61671405359487552682008-04-07T14:03:00.000-05:002008-04-07T14:03:00.000-05:00Emotions are a complexity that most adults can't d...Emotions are a complexity that most adults can't deal with - much less describe or pick up on those intangible things. Expression, even something as basic as tears, can mean so many things. How many folks have misread others and never pick up on what is obvious to others? <BR/><BR/>I get what you mean when you say "You can't memorize the ephemeral" - but the understanding is so difficult even for those not being tested for those "markers".<BR/><BR/>Oh Kaytar, so smart and beautiful and so very very complex.motherbumperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16053978199395919666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-44042913256302703922008-04-07T13:29:00.000-05:002008-04-07T13:29:00.000-05:00It's all there, Kyla, it's just organized 'differe...It's all there, Kyla, it's just organized 'differently', you know? She clearly knows, but in a different context. <BR/><BR/>I'm sure it must cause you endless worry, and I'm sorry for that. But I wouldn't be surprised if she doesn't end up amazing us all with her insights.<BR/><BR/>HeidiFamily Adventurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00093360285075029799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-50428515033764802342008-04-07T12:55:00.000-05:002008-04-07T12:55:00.000-05:00Rain, on my face... for your emerald and for you.Rain, on my face... for your emerald and for you.amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02775497356720247278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-76146217529634934812008-04-07T11:36:00.000-05:002008-04-07T11:36:00.000-05:00That last paragraph makes my heart want to jump ou...That last paragraph makes my heart want to jump out of my chest for you.<BR/><BR/>Rain, on the bunnies face.carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04038972194323564240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-4529856601084780872008-04-07T11:33:00.000-05:002008-04-07T11:33:00.000-05:00Kyla, this was so lovely and sad. Sometimes small ...Kyla, this was so lovely and sad. Sometimes small children just lack the language to help them interpret emotions - someone I know had a chart on her fridge with a sad face, a happy face, a surprised face... and she would have her little guy point to how he was feeling. Maybe a chart like that would help?Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-61982614627161151492008-04-07T11:24:00.000-05:002008-04-07T11:24:00.000-05:00I wonder if it would help to have a mirror availab...I wonder if it would help to have a mirror available to her when she's sad - so she can learn to translate the subjective state with its visual appearance? Most of us can't even remember learning to do that - nor is it something we consciously teach - but when you think about it there's no real reason why the visual image of water on someone's face should translate to "sad" (it's not like we see that when we're feeling sad).Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15957626443087438904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33281653.post-65316093849537839222008-04-07T11:04:00.000-05:002008-04-07T11:04:00.000-05:00she's a jewel, that K. no matter how others might...she's a jewel, that K. no matter how others might try and define her, no matter the bumps, she's a perfect, perfect jewel.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.com